Have you ever been hanging out with friends where everyone seems close, but you feel like an outsider? They laugh, share stories, and talk loudly, but you just sit there, pretending to be busy on your phone so you don't look awkward. Even though you're there, it feels like you're being ignored.
That's what it feels like to be left out. It can feel really bad, like being left behind for no reason. It's not just about not being invited to join the conversation, but more about feeling like you don't "fit in" with the atmosphere. Sometimes it's not because your friends are mean, but because you yourself feel out of place, afraid of saying the wrong thing, or overthinking things. Eventually, you choose to stay silent, and the longer it goes on, the further away you feel.
I’ve felt that too. At first, I thought, “It’s fine, maybe they’re just really into the topic.” But after a while, thoughts like “Am I boring?” or “Do they still see me as their friend?” started creeping in. That’s when I realized that sometimes the feeling of being left behind doesn’t come from others, but from our own minds.
What makes it even harder is that we tend to compare ourselves to others. We see other people getting along easily, while we have to think a thousand times just to start a conversation. The thing is, everyone has their own way of connecting with others. Not every circle is right for us, and that doesn't mean we're wrong or uninteresting.
Sometimes, the more we force ourselves to "fit in," the more exhausted we become. So it's okay if you haven't found a place that truly makes you feel comfortable. Seriously, it's okay.
What's important is not to let the feeling of "not being acknowledged" make you feel worthless.
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